Christian Divorce Mediation

For many Christians, the decision to divorce comes only after prayer, counsel, and a great deal of soul-searching. Once it is made, mediation offers a way to end the marriage with honesty and grace rather than conflict. Crossroads Neutral provides confidential, neutral mediation that helps both spouses reach a fair agreement while keeping the focus on the children and on dignity.

We work with Christian families of every denomination and background — Catholic, Orthodox, Protestant, evangelical, and non-denominational — including Indian and Pakistani Christian families from Kerala, Goa, Mangalore, Tamil Nadu, Punjab, and beyond.

A mediator who respects your faith and your family

We understand the matters that often weigh on Christian families: concern for the children and how they will keep their church life, the involvement of a pastor or priest and of extended family, the wish to avoid an adversarial court fight, and, for some, the question of a church annulment.

To be clear, we are not a religious authority and do not grant annulments or offer pastoral counsel. We help you reach a fair civil agreement, and you remain free to work with your pastor, priest, or church tribunal on the spiritual side, at your own pace.

Issues that often come up for Christian families

Every family is different, and none of these will apply to everyone. These are among the questions families most often bring to mediation:

• Civil divorce and church annulment are separate. A court order ends the civil marriage. A Catholic declaration of nullity, or a similar process in other churches, is handled by the church on its own timeline. Neither one decides the other.
• Children's faith across two homes. Parenting plans can address church attendance, Sunday school or youth group, baptism, first communion or confirmation, and how Christmas and Easter are shared.
• Faith-based school costs. Private or parochial school tuition is a common question to settle in the parenting plan and child support discussions.
• Pastor, priest, and family involvement. Some couples want a pastor or family elders to support them, and agree in advance on how, and when, family and the congregation will be told.
• Property in India or Pakistan. Families from Kerala, Goa, Punjab, and elsewhere may hold homes or land abroad. Goa has its own civil code for marital property, so questions about Indian property need advice from someone familiar with the local law. See property in India.

Languages we speak

You can mediate in the language you are most comfortable with. We speak English, Hindi, Punjabi, and Urdu, among other foreign languages, so nothing important is lost in translation during the decisions that matter most.